Wow, thumbs up aGuest. You said alot of my thoughts for me.
(excuse me for skipping the personal bickering on the prior pages. I'm not here to play the inevitable 'mines bigger than yours' games with anyone. If someone doesn't take your point, oh well: I tried. Life goes on....)
Something that's always rubbed me the wrong way in life is those who put on airs of false friendliness, bestowing wishes of peace, love. Etc. Excuse me, but have we even met? You call me "friend" and even "brother"? Do I KNOW you?
In reading this thread, it occurred to me WHY I find it repulsive: it reminds me of one of the psychological techniques used by JWs to lure people into joining, ie seeking out the lonely souls who enter the doors of the KH, even with an elder serving as air traffic controller dispatching brothers and sisters to ensure a "personal" contact is made with the newcomer, finding how they entered (ie did they pass by, invited, etc?). I've managed sales teams where good customer service is key, and recognize a powerful sales technique when I see one! It WORKS to sell religion as well as commodities.
Ex-JWs SHOULD know a snow job when they see one, and the mandate to avoid publicly disagreeing AT ALL COSTS. In fact, realize that those coming out of the JW experience need REAL TRUTHS (which in real life includes disagreement) and may find the faux friendliness as equally off-putting. They need a dose of reality, not more of the hair of the dog that bit them. (Its ironic that some of you want a recreation of what you left?)
Otherwise, they are likely to join another liberty-sapping cult that merely offers just a slightly different flavor of cult.